Actions and Words ;)

Yesterday I spoke to a close friend in Bangalore, our usual almost daily phone call( a habit), and L told me that Actions has meaning but words are mostly farce. ( It sort of made me feel meh because I love words, words mean something for me though not enough I get that, I was always told my all my dear ones that words are not enough, just not enough, especially by C). Funny enough, yesterday one of the ladies in the support group send this in a group too(source unknown), usually, I delete them after reading, but thought this I should blog, as it might help some of the readers who have been asking me about related things. Here it is, a small wise snippet.

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Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Have you ever heard that phrase “actions speak louder than words?”

I can’t tell you how many times I have muttered this phrase throughout my life and throughout this site.

If you ever want to see what a person TRULY wants (their words aside) you need to look at their actions. When I was 22 years old I remember talking to a girl that I had a lot of interest in. To me, it seemed like she had a lot of interest in me. She was saying all the right things and making me feel like I was the only one she cared about. Basically, with her words, she convinced me that she was very interested in me. However, every time I would try to take the next step and ask her on a date she would either say she couldn’t or she would accept the date and cancel it at the last minute.

Let’s break this situation down a little bit.

This girl said things to me to make me feel like she was very interested in me (WORDS.)

However, when it came down to crunch time and advancing the relationship forward she would always cancel on me. (ACTIONS.)

So, while her words said one thing her actions said another. In case you are wondering, actions mean a lot more than words.

Let’s apply this type of thinking to your ex-boyfriend.

If your ex-says that he never wants you back those are simply words. While those words may mean something what you really need to be looking at are his actions. For example, let’s say that your ex-says he doesn’t want you back. However, with time he is constantly wanting to see you. When he does get to see you he can’t keep his hands off of you. He is always hugging you and touching your hands. These actions would suggest that he feels an attraction for you and may still want you back.

Of course, this can also work in the reverse.

If an ex-boyfriend says he doesn’t want you back and never answers your text messages, phone calls or constant attempts to advance the “recovery” process then his actions are stating that he may indeed not want you back.

Do you see how this works?

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